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How I Don’t Drink Anymore

wp-1484928101125.jpgWith just over 14 months sober, I can honestly tell you life as I used to know it is dead and buried.  Goodbye chaos.  Goodbye troubles.  Goodbye anxiety, exhaustion, worry. I know have peace of mind in my life.  I can now approach difficult situations with a level head.  I don’t get too up or too down.

I have a pause button–fuck I could have used that 36 years ago.  So how did I do it? Why was it fairly easy for me to turn my back on booze and walk into “normalcy?”  I am so glad you asked!  I thought I would list five tips that have been highly effective in maintaining my recovery.

Image result for control emotionsControl Those Emotions–When  you are able to keep your emotions in check, the likelihood of you wanting to go out and bash your head into a bottle of vodka are slim. Never getting too up, or too down, an even-keeled approach to life keeps you stable and in control.

 

Nip It In The Bud–Life is going to deal you hand after shitty hand.  If one of     them gets out of control–resentments, problem with another human, depression, anxiety over a topic–nip it in the bud!  Confront whatever situation is causing  you instability and deal with it, asap!  Burying emotions or situations is going to cause you problems as issues and situations build up.

Find What Works and Work It–Are 12 step meetings your thing?  Perhaps your religion? How about meditation, reading, writing, singing, dancing, walking, hiking…you get the idea.  Find what works for you and keeps you in that happy place and work it!  Do it, and I mean frequently! Don’t go overboard, of course, but do the activities that give you pleasure, keep you grounded.

Image result for control emotionsMeditate, Meditate, MeditateDid I mention MEDITATE?  I am guilty of not doing this as much as I should.  But I will tell you, the benefits of meditation are so numerous, I am surprised it is not practiced in every school in this country.

Start off with just 5 minutes a day, then build up to over 30 minutes.  You will thank me a thousand times over. My Youtube Channel has over 85 meditations you can choose from.

One Day At A Time–12 Step meetings may not be my thing, but boy are their slogans dead on!  Yes, living each day for itself will keep you from biting off more than you can chew.  It will keep you from languishing in the past, and worrying about the future.  We only have today, embrace it and stay sober.  JUST FOR TODAY.  Want more great slogans?  GO HERE!  AND HERE!

Well, there you have it.  There have been other things that have helped me stay sober, but these five principles have been my bedrock.  They have been my go to ways of living and today I can honestly use the word happy in my vocabulary.  What has kept you in recovery?

New Playlist! Buddha Vibes

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As with mostly all the playlists on my new justruminating YouTube Channel, this Buddha Vibes Playlist is a collaboration! Please feel free to post whatever videos you think would be beneficial to our community!. The link for collaborating on this playlist is below.

And please, don’t forget to subscribe and invite your friends to our playlists! Thanks!

LINK TO COLLABORATE ON BUDDHA VIBES PLAYLIST

My Daily Song: The Weekend

There are a few songs I really like by The Weekend.  This is one of them.  Once again, great sound, great songwriting.

Earned It (From The “Fifty Shades Of Grey” Soundtrack)

You make it look like it’s magic
‘Cause I see nobody, nobody but you, you, you
I’m never confused
Hey, hey
I’m so used to being used

So I love when you call unexpected
‘Cause I hate when the moment’s expected
So I’ma care for you, you, you
I’ma care for you, you, you, you, yeah

‘Cause, girl, you’re perfect
You’re always worth it
And you deserve it
The way you work it
‘Cause, girl, you earned it (shit)
Girl, you earned it, yeah

You know our love would be tragic (oh, yeah)
So you don’t pay it, don’t pay it no mind, mind, mind
We live with no lies
Hey, hey
You’re my favorite kind of night

So I love when you call unexpected
‘Cause I hate when the moment’s expected
So I’ma care for you, you, you
I’ma care for you, you, you, you, yeah

‘Cause, girl, you’re perfect
You’re always worth it
And you deserve it
The way you work it
‘Cause, girl, you earned it (shit)
Girl, you earned it, yeah

On that lonely night
We said it wouldn’t be love
But we felt the rush
It made us believe it was only us (only us)
Convinced we were broken inside (shit), inside (shit)

‘Cause, girl, you’re perfect
You’re always worth it
And you deserve it
The way you work it
‘Cause, girl, you earned it (shit)
Girl, you earned it, yeah

My Daily Song: Coldplay

Never mind that Coldplay is one of the best bands ever, but to put a song together like “Yellow”, well have a listen for yourself.  The songwriting is fabulous as well!  More importantly, a very important woman in my life sent me this song.  For her to do that, well, I’ll let the song explain it.

Yellow

Look at the stars
Look how they shine for you
And everything you do
Yeah they were all yellow

I came along
I wrote a song for you
And all the things you do
And it was called yellow

So then I took my turn
Oh what a thing to have done
And it was all yellow

Your skin
Oh yeah your skin and bones
Turn into something beautiful
You know you know I love you so
You know I love you so

I swam across
I jumped across for you
Oh what a thing to do

‘Cause you were all yellow
I drew a line
I drew a line for you
Oh what a thing to do
And it was all yellow

Your skin
Oh yeah your skin and bones
Turn into something beautiful
And you know
For you I’d bleed myself dry
For you I’d bleed myself dry

It’s true
Look how they shine for you
Look how they shine for you
Look how they shine for
Look how they shine for you
Look how they shine for you
Look how they shine

Look at the stars
Look how they shine for you
And all the things that you do

My Daily Song: Ed Sheeran

This is just a beautiful love song, and a beautiful video of two people dancing.  Enjoy!

Thinking Out Loud

When your legs don’t work like they used to before
And I can’t sweep you off of your feet
Will your mouth still remember the taste of my love
Will your eyes still smile from your cheeks

And darling I will be loving you ’til we’re 70
And baby my heart could still fall as hard at 23
And I’m thinking ’bout how people fall in love in mysterious ways
Maybe just the touch of a hand
Oh me I fall in love with you every single day
And I just wanna tell you I am

So honey now
Take me into your loving arms
Kiss me under the light of a thousand stars
Place your head on my beating heart
I’m thinking out loud
Maybe we found love right where we are

When my hair’s all but gone and my memory fades
And the crowds don’t remember my name
When my hands don’t play the strings the same way, mm
I know you will still love me the same

‘Cause honey your soul can never grow old, it’s evergreen
Baby your smile’s forever in my mind and memory

I’m thinking ’bout how people fall in love in mysterious ways
Maybe it’s all part of a plan
I’ll just keep on making the same mistakes
Hoping that you’ll understand

But baby now
Take me into your loving arms
Kiss me under the light of a thousand stars
Place your head on my beating heart
I’m thinking out loud
That maybe we found love right where we are, oh

(Ah la la, la la la, la la la, la la la la)

So baby now
Take me into your loving arms
Kiss me under the light of a thousand stars
Oh darling, place your head on my beating heart
I’m thinking out loud
That maybe we found love right where we are

Oh maybe we found love right where we are
And we found love right where we are