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Living Life Well: How’s Your Bed?

Gems for living a life of wellness. Lessons I have learned, or am learning, during this crazy journey through life.

Every action you take, every decision you make, everything you do causes an immediate effect on those around you–and on you.  And this is the important bit.  There is such a thing as instant karma.  It is your bed, and you are going to have to lie in it.  Therefore:  Choose How You Make Your Bed!

Your actions will dictate whether in general your life is going to run happily or badly, smoothly or as if the wheels have fallen off.  If you are selfish and manipulative, it will rebound on you.  bed1If you are generally loving and thoughtful, you will get your just rewards–and not in heaven (or the next life or whatever you believe) but right here, right now.

Trust me.  Whatever you do and how you do it will come back to you in spades.  This isn’t a threat for living.  It’s an observation.  It’s happened to me time and time again.  Those who do good, get good.  Those who do bad, get bad.

bed2I know we can all point to people who seem to have it made and are still pretty vile.  But, trust me, they don’t sleep well at night, if at all.  They have no one to really love them.

Inside they are sad and lonely and frightened.  Those who go around sharing a bit of love and kindness get rewarded with the same coming back.

So be careful how you make your bed.  What goes around, comes around.  There is instant karma.  What you sow you reap.  Better to stand up and be counted right from the start.  Do the right thing, every time.  You know what it is.  Then when you get in the bed you’ve made, not only will you be able to sleep at night, but you’ll sleep the sleep of the just.

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Living Life Well: Laugh A Little!

Gems for living a life of wellness. Lessons I have learned, or am learning, during this crazy journey through life.

As we struggle through this life–and it can be a struggle–we need to keep a sense of proportion about it.  What we do and what we take seriously can often be so far removed from what it is actually all about that it is laughable.

So today, we want to try to the best we can and have a sense of humor.  We get bogged down in trivia, lost in irrelevant detail to such an extent that our life can whizz past and we don’t even notice.  laughter1By letting go of things that really aren’t important, we can put ourselves back on the right track.

And the best way to do that is through humor–laughing at ourselves, laughing at our situation, but never laughing at others–although it’s hard some days lol–they’re just as lost as us.

Life is for living, enjoying the sunshine, big things–not getting in a terrible mood because you dropped some eggs on the supermarket floor, someone didn’t hold the door open as you were approaching.

GIFSec.comLaughing at yourself and situations you find yourself in has a double positive effect.  First, it diffuses tension and helps regain a sense of proportion; and second, it has real physical as well as mental benefits.  Laughter causes the release of endorphins, which make you feel better and give you a better perspective on life.

If you observe any aspect of human behavior, you can see the ridiculousness in all of it.  Learn to find the funny side of everything.  It’s the best technique for instant stress relief and dissolves anxiety and doubt.  Try it!

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Living Life Well: Time For You

Gems for living a life of wellness. Lessons I have learned, or am learning, during this crazy journey through life.

Most people think they get this next concept, leave some space for yourself everyday, but most people might be wrong.  YOu may think you have a little quality time each day for yourself, but I bet you don’t.  

You see, even in our time alone we spend so much of it worrying about others, caring for our family, friends, and loved ones, that there is very little left over entirely for ourselves.  what I am proposing isn’t revolutionary or difficult or extreme.

In fact, it’s pretty easy.  Just leave a little space for yourself each day.  Perhaps only 10 minutes (ideally half an hour) put aside and devoted entirely to yourself?  Selfish?  You bet. metime2 Of course it is, and justifiably so–you are the captain, the engine, the driving force, the motivator, the rock.  You need that time to regenerate, renew, invigorate yourself.  If you don’t, you aren’t taking on fresh fuel, your engine will run down and so will you.

So what are you going to do with that time? Answer:  absolutely nothing.  And I do mean nothing.  This isn’t time for lying in the bathtub, meditating, reading the paper, or sleeping.  This is a little space for you, a breather, a time to sit still and do absolutely nothing.  I find just sitting in a comfy chair just breathing is a fantastic boost a couple of times a day if I can manage it.

I find time spent doing nothing really important and as soon as I complicate it, it loses something.  If I add a cup of coffee to my solitude, then it’s a coffee break and not a space just for me.  If I listen to music, then it’s a music break.  If I have a companion with me and we chat, then it’s a social occasion.  I have moved away entirely from the concept of a little space for me.  Keep it simple.  Keep it bare.  Keep it pure!

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Living Life Well: Live For Today!

Gems for living a life of wellness. Lessons I have learned, or am learning, during this crazy journey through life.

Everyday we wake up is a fresh start, and we can make of it what we want, write on that blank canvas.  So, whatever the past was, let it go.  Don’t live in the past!

There is nothing you can do to change anything that has gone on before and so you must turn your attention to the here and now.  I know that it is hard to resist the allure of dwelling on what has gone before.  But if you want to be happy and successful at life, you have to turn your attention to what is happening for you right now. past1 You might be tempted to dwell on the past because it was awful or because it was wonderful.  Either way, you have to leave it behind because the only way to live is in the present.

If you’re revisiting the past because of regrets, then you need to be clear that you can’t go back and undo what you’ve done.  If you hang on to guilt, you’re only damaging yourself.  We’ve all made bad decisions that have adversely affected people around us that we professed to love but whom we treated disgracefully.  There isn’t a damn thing you can do to wipe the slate clean.

If you can, try to see the past as a room separate from the one you live in now.  You can go in there but you don’t live there anymore.  You can go visit, but it isn’t home any more.  past on justruminating men's blogHome is here and now.  Don’t miss what is happening now because you were too busy looking back, or later you’ll be busy looking back at this time and wondering why you wasted it.

Carpe Diem!

Living Life Well: Change What You Can

Gems for living a life of wellness. Lessons I have learned, or am learning, during this crazy journey through life.

If time is short, and it is, it makes sense to not go wasting any of it, not a precious drop!  So the idea here is pay attention to what, in your life, you have some control over, and let go of the rest!

Beating yourself up over things that you cannot control is counterproductive and such a waste of time.  I’m not saying you should stop caring about things or to walk away from those in need.  In fact quite the opposite in many ways, but there are areas in which you can make a personal difference and other areas where you’ll never even make a dent.

If you waste time struggling to change stuff that is obviously never going to be changed, then life will whizz past and you’ll miss it.  controlIf, on the other hand, you dedicate yourself personally to thing you can change, areas where you can make a difference, then life becomes richer and more fulfilled.  And the more rich it is, curiously, the more time you seem to have.

So, don’t waste time preaching to those who won’t listen.  Don’t continue to be concerned over the new President; it’s not going to change.  We don’t have to waste effort or energy or resources on things over which we have no control and no certainty of any success.  By changing ourselves, though, we can be assured of a result.