Tag: Recovery

The Stalking Narcissist

I was renewing my subscription to this blog, when I noticed an incredible surge in activity.

Curious, I went to my Admin Panel and was stunned to see a pattern reminiscent of how a stalker might behave.

Then I checked the origin of where the stalker-or stalkers-location was. And then I knew: My blog had become fodder for a lunatic NARCISSIST, BULLY, and EMOTIONAL VAMPIRE.

I could give a care as to how my recovery blog has likely been regurgitated to innocent friends and family, who have been swindled for years by this manipulative, and insecure bully.

Nor do I put any stock whatsoever in the interpretations of an individual, who I am certain is a borderline sociopath, and in need of immediate Psychiatric Treatment.

As well, I could care less how my blog is “received” by individuals who prefer to gossip behind closed doors about my “past”, as my most dedicated readers know.

Not convinced I have this (or these) stalkers dead to rights?

Read on my devoted readers, as I elucidate the nasty traits of an individual who clearly suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

See if this sounds like someone you know. If it does, I wouldn’t hesitate to force them, and the ones they continue to con, to accept that the only person with the problem is SHE (or him, or they).

A narcissistic personality disorder causes problems in many areas of life, such as relationships, work, school or financial affairs.

People with narcissistic personality disorder may be generally unhappy and disappointed when they’re not given the special favors or admiration they believe they deserve. They may find their relationships unfulfilling, and others may not enjoy being around them.

Treatment for narcissistic personality disorder centers around talk therapy (psychotherapy).

Symptoms

Signs and symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder and the severity of symptoms vary. People with the disorder can:

  • Have an exaggerated sense of self-importance
  • Have a sense of entitlement and require constant, excessive admiration
  • Expect to be recognized as superior even without achievements that warrant it
  • Exaggerate achievements and talents
  • Be preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate
  • Believe they are superior and can only associate with equally special people
  • Monopolize conversations and belittle or look down on people they perceive as inferior
  • Expect special favors and unquestioning compliance with their expectations
  • Take advantage of others to get what they want
  • Have an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others
  • Be envious of others and believe others envy them
  • Behave in an arrogant or haughty manner, coming across as conceited, boastful and pretentious
  • Insist on having the best of everything — for instance, the best car or office

At the same time, people with narcissistic personality disorder have trouble handling anything they perceive as criticism, and they can:

  • Become impatient or angry when they don’t receive special treatment
  • Have significant interpersonal problems and easily feel slighted
  • React with rage or contempt and try to belittle the other person to make themselves appear superior
  • Have difficulty regulating emotions and behavior
  • Experience major problems dealing with stress and adapting to change
  • Feel depressed and moody because they fall short of perfection
  • Have secret feelings of insecurity, shame, vulnerability and humiliation

When to see a doctor

People with narcissistic personality disorder may not want to think that anything could be wrong, so they may be unlikely to seek treatment.

If they do seek treatment, it’s more likely to be for symptoms of depression, drug or alcohol use, or another mental health problem. But perceived insults to self-esteem may make it difficult to accept and follow through with treatment.

If you recognize aspects of your personality that are common to narcissistic personality disorder or you’re feeling overwhelmed by sadness, consider reaching out to a trusted doctor or mental health provider.

Getting the right treatment can help make your life more rewarding and enjoyable.

Get treatment!

You’ve got serious issues.

Your opinions mean nothing.

You are shallow.

You are a nasty person.

You are a stalker.

You are a liar.

You are spiritually bankrupt.

You are seriously ill.

You are a drama queen.

You need help.

You are vain.

You are hurtful.

You are a fake.

Until you get help:

You will not matter to me.

You will not matter period.

You will remain irrelevant.

You will remain despicable.

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Butterflies Drift

Butterflies drift
before a man
before
the
dawning night.

Clouds retreating
beyond the veil
beyond
a
setting sun.

Ruminate long
within this space
within
this
sober sight.

NAMASTE

Decision Time

Keep Sobriety Simple

Get your head right, and keep it right!

How I Don’t Drink Anymore

wp-1484928101125.jpgWith just over 14 months sober, I can honestly tell you life as I used to know it is dead and buried.  Goodbye chaos.  Goodbye troubles.  Goodbye anxiety, exhaustion, worry. I know have peace of mind in my life.  I can now approach difficult situations with a level head.  I don’t get too up or too down.

I have a pause button–fuck I could have used that 36 years ago.  So how did I do it? Why was it fairly easy for me to turn my back on booze and walk into “normalcy?”  I am so glad you asked!  I thought I would list five tips that have been highly effective in maintaining my recovery.

Image result for control emotionsControl Those Emotions–When  you are able to keep your emotions in check, the likelihood of you wanting to go out and bash your head into a bottle of vodka are slim. Never getting too up, or too down, an even-keeled approach to life keeps you stable and in control.

 

Nip It In The Bud–Life is going to deal you hand after shitty hand.  If one of     them gets out of control–resentments, problem with another human, depression, anxiety over a topic–nip it in the bud!  Confront whatever situation is causing  you instability and deal with it, asap!  Burying emotions or situations is going to cause you problems as issues and situations build up.

Find What Works and Work It–Are 12 step meetings your thing?  Perhaps your religion? How about meditation, reading, writing, singing, dancing, walking, hiking…you get the idea.  Find what works for you and keeps you in that happy place and work it!  Do it, and I mean frequently! Don’t go overboard, of course, but do the activities that give you pleasure, keep you grounded.

Image result for control emotionsMeditate, Meditate, MeditateDid I mention MEDITATE?  I am guilty of not doing this as much as I should.  But I will tell you, the benefits of meditation are so numerous, I am surprised it is not practiced in every school in this country.

Start off with just 5 minutes a day, then build up to over 30 minutes.  You will thank me a thousand times over. My Youtube Channel has over 85 meditations you can choose from.

One Day At A Time–12 Step meetings may not be my thing, but boy are their slogans dead on!  Yes, living each day for itself will keep you from biting off more than you can chew.  It will keep you from languishing in the past, and worrying about the future.  We only have today, embrace it and stay sober.  JUST FOR TODAY.  Want more great slogans?  GO HERE!  AND HERE!

Well, there you have it.  There have been other things that have helped me stay sober, but these five principles have been my bedrock.  They have been my go to ways of living and today I can honestly use the word happy in my vocabulary.  What has kept you in recovery?