Tag: kindness

My Miscellany: To Follow Or Not To Follow?

wp-1485298089762.jpgAccording to WordPress I have 360 “followers.”  Truly?  I wish!  I average about 15-25 “likes” per post.  Where the heck are the other 340?  Lol.  But, not my actual point.  This got me thinking about who I follow, and why.

What I have learned is that I have been ignoring some folks that have been showing me consistent and solid support, and I have been “following” and investing serious time and effort in some folks for quite some time that have shown me scant support.lovemybloggers on justruminating men's blog

Well, today I cleared house and started following you folks I have missed.  I guess that’s just the ebb and flow of blogging.  Because I don’t believe in “following” everyone, I have been devoted to pretty much the same 30 or so poets since I joined here in mid-October.


That number has pretty much allowed me–very nearly most of the time–to post quality comments on posts.  For me, following any more would not allow me to give consistent, quality feedback.

What I am concerned about is making sure that the folks I am supporting are the folks who are regularly and consistently supporting me.  That’s reciprocity!  Makes sense right?  Or at least I hope it does!

Before I decided to launch some folks, I got very anal about this and counted each person who has “liked” each of my last 25 poems.  I discovered the same core group of bloggers, so that’s who I am following today.

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So, thank you very much to you who have shown me such love and support.  And thank you for those of you who occasionally stop in and “like” or comment, I am most grateful.  I understand everyone can’t visit everyday and then I’d have to follow 360 followers, lol.  I just can’t follow everyone and be fair to your work.

At least you all know now why I am or am not following you.  And, to the new folks I am now following, I promise to show you the same love and support you have shown me.  Sorry I’m a bit late to the party.

My Sunny Side: Kindness

sunnysideupI’ve decided to try a new feature in my blog: Sunny Side Up (I actually like over medium eggs lol) me trying to be my funny, sarcastic, positive, uplifting, grateful, off the wall self! I am going to show my positive side. My life is not all doom and gloom, And WovenEclipse helped me see that. So, thank you Rebecca!


I posed a difficult request to the world and the world was kind.  I was extremely apprehensive about reaching out and asking for help.  It just goes to show you, when you are thinking a situation is going to turn out terrible, when you use what we call in Mindfulness Group as the “Emotional Mind”, rather than the “Wise Mind” you can miss wonderful opportunities.

This community came out in support of me.  If not with donations, with reblogging my call for help, with kind words and even a few texts.  Who says the world is going to shit?  I, for one, am here to say that the human spirit is alive and well.  Acts of kindness and love for each other is alive and well and it lives with you!

From across the world fellow bloggers have reached out to show love and support and I was staggered by the outpouring of kindness and good wishes.  I mean, it’s not like I thought everyone was going to un-follow me and head for the hills, lol.  But I guess I thought people would just silently observe and pass.  They did not.

No, many of you showed the content of your characters.  The size of your hearts.  The generosity of your spirit.  Your lovingkindness.  And I will be forever changed by it.

Thank You!


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