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My Miscellany: 6/10/19 1 Year Anniversary


(this post is from 3/2017) When I wrote Men and Women Can Be Friends?  WTF, I never imagined in a million years that we would fall in love.  That’s right, Bec and I have fallen in love and since that post on March 30th we are now at the point that she is coming to visit me at the end of August!  Who could have imagined that a just sober homeless man, and a completely isolated adventure woman, could find love via their blogs?  Who could have imagined love could bloom and flourish between two lost souls 3,623 miles apart?

And what an amazing journey it has been with this woman.  Talk about the best friend I ever had.  Talk about the purest soul I ever knew.  Talk about the sexiest body, eyes, smile I’ve ever seen.  From the early days of flirting with her on her Wilderness Life Blog in early December, through the days of following her incredible journey of self-discovery on Faces of Life, and straight into video talks every single evening, we have developed an incredibly deep and profound relationship.

She has been the only person who has ever seen me behind all of my portrayals.  She stood by me while I stripped away the layers and facades and finally showed her who I really was.  She stood by me and showed me how to be a friend.  She supported me through my recovery and never flinched when she learned every dark and dirty truth about me and my life.  She has never judged me.  She has never moved an inch from my side.  All she did was give me the room to finally be who I was supposed to be all along.  If you’ve never had yourself beaten, molested, isolated, tormented from yourself, then very little of what I am saying is going to make much sense to you.

At the same time I’d like to believe I helped her to come out of herself and see just how beautiful she really is.  I think I have been there for her during some difficult times and decisions.  She has been able to lean on me.  I am proud that ours is a relationship built on pure and genuine honesty and trust.  I know everything about her and she knows everything about me.  And I do mean everything.

We have shared over 136,000 texts, 275 hours on the phone, nearly 100 emails, 80 hours of video.  We have taken every relationship quiz known to the internet.  We have shared deeply passionate and loving experiences.  Oh, and we even played two games of Trouble, she one.  Games using just phones for reference are NOT as fun as they describe online.  All you have is words when you are 3,623 miles apart.  And believe me, you find out EVERYTHING about your partner and yourself in a hurry!

That all being said, she wrote a poem of love and longing the other day.  I have never posted one poem about her online.  I decided that the poetry I write for her is going to remain deeply personal and intimate.  Should she decide I should post something for her, only then will I do that.  However, I did give her an answer to her poem that was asking for many different forms of love and support.  I told her I would most definately share the poems; they might help someone else know the depths of love and support that two people who wish to be there for one another forever will go.

My Miscellany: Our Blog Community Kicks Ass!


Hi guys, I just wanted to share with you some of our blog milestones.  Yes, OUR, because without you, there wouldn’t be a justruminating.  These milestones would never have been achieved without your love and support.  I feel like bragging today.  Hell, I guess some level of validation, love, attention, appreciation never killed anyone; so give yourselves a pat on the back.

You have shown me kindness, attention, and over and over again showed that you would be with me no matter what I posted.  You’ve been incredibly instrumental in my recovery as well.  THANK YOU!  I will be back sometime early April with lots more good stuff!

As a way of saying thanks, I thought I would introduce you to the first 25 bloggers ever to follow me.  I found a cool new way to link to bloggers, so you will see others coming very soon!  The top link brings you to the blogger’s gravatar page, the bottom link to their website.

Show ’em some love and go say hi!

Look at what WE have achieved just since October 18, 2016!  This is what people can do when they come together in love and unity!  Good stuff people!



885 Posts

59 Categories


39, 010 “Likes”

Best Day February 20th:


344 Visitors



To My first 25 Followers, YOU ROCK!!


Reena Davis
Bryan Grogan
Man of many thoughts
freckles for breakfast
Psychic Medium Ian Scott
Casey E Bean
Deniz Yalım
Victoria B.
Thoughts in Life
Chris Karl
no face woman
Success Inspirers’ World
Minal Dalal Co-Creator

My Miscellany: Community


I want to take a minute to thank all of you!  Dear readers, you make up my wonderful blog community and your frequent comments sustain and uplift me!

I had recently posted about some of the troubles I was experiencing here at the treatment facility.  Your comments, suggestions, and words of inspiration truly helped me.

When you take the time to comment and share your own stories and points of view, that is validation for me.  It encourages me to continue to write in the hopes that more of you will come forward and share your thoughts with the rest of the community.

Charity brochure final.cdrI write in the hopes that my experiences, as well as my struggles, might somehow be helpful to some of you.  Please, don’t ever hesitate to send along your thoughts, comments, tips, suggestions.  The worse thoughts are those unexpressed!  I am a big boy, I can handle being told if my attitude needs an adjustment!

So, as you go forth in your day today, know that I am here doing well.  I made it past some of the minor trials I was experiencing.  I know life is a journey, not a destination.  I want to share my ups and my downs, as well as my sideways!  Thank you again for sharing yours.  I am learning so much having spent lots more time reading so many of your blogs.

“I blog, therefore I am.”


My Miscellany: To Follow Or Not To Follow?


According to WordPress I have 360 “followers.”  Truly?  I wish!  I average about 15-25 “likes” per post.  Where the heck are the other 340?  Lol.  But, not my actual point.  This got me thinking about who I follow, and why.

What I have learned is that I have been ignoring some folks that have been showing me consistent and solid support, and I have been “following” and investing serious time and effort in some folks for quite some time that have shown me scant support.lovemybloggers on justruminating men's blog

Well, today I cleared house and started following you folks I have missed.  I guess that’s just the ebb and flow of blogging.  Because I don’t believe in “following” everyone, I have been devoted to pretty much the same 30 or so poets since I joined here in mid-October.


That number has pretty much allowed me–very nearly most of the time–to post quality comments on posts.  For me, following any more would not allow me to give consistent, quality feedback.

What I am concerned about is making sure that the folks I am supporting are the folks who are regularly and consistently supporting me.  That’s reciprocity!  Makes sense right?  Or at least I hope it does!

Before I decided to launch some folks, I got very anal about this and counted each person who has “liked” each of my last 25 poems.  I discovered the same core group of bloggers, so that’s who I am following today.

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So, thank you very much to you who have shown me such love and support.  And thank you for those of you who occasionally stop in and “like” or comment, I am most grateful.  I understand everyone can’t visit everyday and then I’d have to follow 360 followers, lol.  I just can’t follow everyone and be fair to your work.

At least you all know now why I am or am not following you.  And, to the new folks I am now following, I promise to show you the same love and support you have shown me.  Sorry I’m a bit late to the party.

My Recovery: For You All


Dear All Of You,

I want you to know how much I appreciate you being out there.  Every time I visit, I come away more complete; more enriched.  The bravery you show each day in penning your words is a thing of true beauty, and I am grateful for your presence.

I always try to drop a few thoughtful words for you; I know how important it is to feel that connectedness.  However, if I simply just “like” something, I want you to know it means more to me than that.

It’s usually when I read you on my phone, and not on my home computer–my autocorrect on my phone is murderous!  But It means that I truly read each and every word.  I paid attention to what you had to say because it mattered to me.

So, thank you!  I want to take a moment to especially thank those of you who always find time to visit me.  I can’t tell you what a difference you are make in my mixed up, shook up world.  I want to particularly thank those of you who go that extra step to drop a few words when you spend time visiting me.

Thank You Fellow Writers
Thank You All!

The joy you give me is measurable beyond mere words.  You are all essential to me and to my recovery.  You make a difference.  I also like the “banter” some of us engage in, it’s fun!

So, from one human hurling through space to another, thank you so very much for sharing your world!  Each of you is a gem to me.  You shine on me in ways you cannot even imagine; but I hope you can a little more today.  This human comes away from your words and world a better man.