Tag: friends

Pity Party Closed Down

wp-1484928101125.jpgSo, I’ve recovered from my pity party of last week, see I’m Still Sober, Barely.  And now I am finally back to vigilant about the principles that have kept me in Recovery for nearly a year: Acceptance, Gratitude, Now, Spirituality, Mindfulness.

I was transferred from the kitchen to babysitting the gym, but I also have a half-time position working with retired Vets in the retirement facility, which is great!

I also bought a mountain bike, which was one of my goals.  Let me tell you, riding it from the store just about a mile and a half was killer!  Those guys cruising all around here make it look easy, lol.  I am definitely going to have to build up my stamina before I go and ride to work 4 miles each way.

I went to my first local NA meeting with another member who lives in one of the apartments in the building.  He seems like a nice guy.  We went out to dinner after the meeting with a bunch of folks; some of whom were quite, uhm, colorful.  I will be attending another meeting this evening.

I also applied for a full-time position at the VA.  It is in the kitchen doing prep work. While it is certainly not my dream job, It would at least get my foot in the door and allow me to transfer to any VA in the country.  Because folks, I am so ready to leave the state of Massachusetts; you’ve no idea!

I probably will never like the shitty view from my front porch, but overall the house is fine, my room is large and quiet.  So am more than satisfied with my living conditions as they stand.

For once in my life I have some goals I want to achieve.  I am proud of the fact that is has taken me less than two weeks to achieve some of the goals I set.  Some of my larger, more long term goals, will obviously take more time and determination.

And finally I have been blessed with the best friend anyone could ever hope for.  She has been with me through thick and thin.  I have developed incredibly powerful feelings for this woman.  I feel quite sure that we will end up living a life of true happiness together!  She has taught me how to be a very good friend.

That may sound silly to some of you, but those of you who have been with me since last October, know that this is a very big step in my Recovery.

So, back on track.  Living life.  Doing the right things.  Walking hand in hand with the best human I’ve ever known.  Ya, life isn’t so shabby today.

Our Blog Community Kicks Ass!

friends on justruminating men's blogHi guys, I just wanted to share with you some of our blog milestones.  Yes, OUR, because without you, there wouldn’t be a justruminating.  These milestones would never have been achieved without your love and support.  I feel like bragging today.  Hell, I guess some level of validation, love, attention, appreciation never killed anyone; so give yourselves a pat on the back.

You have shown me kindness, attention, and over and over again showed that you would be with me no matter what I posted.  You’ve been incredibly instrumental in my recovery as well.  THANK YOU!  I will be back sometime early April with lots more good stuff!

As a way of saying thanks, I thought I would introduce you to the first 25 bloggers ever to follow me.  I found a cool new way to link to bloggers, so you will see others coming very soon!  The top link brings you to the blogger’s gravatar page, the bottom link to their website.

Show ’em some love and go say hi!

Look at what WE have achieved just since October 18, 2016!  This is what people can do when they come together in love and unity!  Good stuff people!

Justruminating Milestones:


885 Posts

59 Categories


39, 010 “Likes”

Best Day February 20th:


344 Visitors



To My first 25 Followers, YOU ROCK!!


Reena Davis
Bryan Grogan
Man of many thoughts
freckles for breakfast
Psychic Medium Ian Scott
Casey E Bean
Deniz Yalım
Victoria B.
Thoughts in Life
Chris Karl
no face woman
Success Inspirers’ World
Minal Dalal Co-Creator

My Miscellany: Community


I want to take a minute to thank all of you!  Dear readers, you make up my wonderful blog community and your frequent comments sustain and uplift me!

I had recently posted about some of the troubles I was experiencing here at the treatment facility.  Your comments, suggestions, and words of inspiration truly helped me.

When you take the time to comment and share your own stories and points of view, that is validation for me.  It encourages me to continue to write in the hopes that more of you will come forward and share your thoughts with the rest of the community.

Charity brochure final.cdrI write in the hopes that my experiences, as well as my struggles, might somehow be helpful to some of you.  Please, don’t ever hesitate to send along your thoughts, comments, tips, suggestions.  The worse thoughts are those unexpressed!  I am a big boy, I can handle being told if my attitude needs an adjustment!

So, as you go forth in your day today, know that I am here doing well.  I made it past some of the minor trials I was experiencing.  I know life is a journey, not a destination.  I want to share my ups and my downs, as well as my sideways!  Thank you again for sharing yours.  I am learning so much having spent lots more time reading so many of your blogs.

“I blog, therefore I am.”


My Miscellany: To Follow Or Not To Follow?

wp-1485298089762.jpgAccording to WordPress I have 360 “followers.”  Truly?  I wish!  I average about 15-25 “likes” per post.  Where the heck are the other 340?  Lol.  But, not my actual point.  This got me thinking about who I follow, and why.

What I have learned is that I have been ignoring some folks that have been showing me consistent and solid support, and I have been “following” and investing serious time and effort in some folks for quite some time that have shown me scant support.lovemybloggers on justruminating men's blog

Well, today I cleared house and started following you folks I have missed.  I guess that’s just the ebb and flow of blogging.  Because I don’t believe in “following” everyone, I have been devoted to pretty much the same 30 or so poets since I joined here in mid-October.


That number has pretty much allowed me–very nearly most of the time–to post quality comments on posts.  For me, following any more would not allow me to give consistent, quality feedback.

What I am concerned about is making sure that the folks I am supporting are the folks who are regularly and consistently supporting me.  That’s reciprocity!  Makes sense right?  Or at least I hope it does!

Before I decided to launch some folks, I got very anal about this and counted each person who has “liked” each of my last 25 poems.  I discovered the same core group of bloggers, so that’s who I am following today.

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So, thank you very much to you who have shown me such love and support.  And thank you for those of you who occasionally stop in and “like” or comment, I am most grateful.  I understand everyone can’t visit everyday and then I’d have to follow 360 followers, lol.  I just can’t follow everyone and be fair to your work.

At least you all know now why I am or am not following you.  And, to the new folks I am now following, I promise to show you the same love and support you have shown me.  Sorry I’m a bit late to the party.

For You All

wp-1484928101125.jpgDear All Of You,

I want you to know how much I appreciate you being out there.  Every time I visit, I come away more complete; more enriched.  The bravery you show each day in penning your words is a thing of true beauty, and I am grateful for your presence.

I always try to drop a few thoughtful words for you; I know how important it is to feel that connectedness.  However, if I simply just “like” something, I want you to know it means more to me than that.  It’s usually when I read you on my phone, and not on my home computer–my autocorrect on my phone is murderous!  But It means that I truly read each and every word.  I paid attention to what you had to say because it mattered to me.

Thank You Fellow Writers
Thank You All!

So, thank you!  I want to take a moment to especially thank those of you who always find time to visit me.  I can’t tell you what a difference you are make in my mixed up, shook up world.  I want to particularly thank those of you who go that extra step to drop a few words when you spend time visiting me.


The joy you give me is measurable beyond mere words.  You are all essential to me and to my recovery.  You make a difference.  I also like the “banter” some of us engage in, it’s fun!

So, from one human hurling through space to another, thank you so very much for sharing your world!  Each of you is a gem to me.  You shine on me in ways you cannot even imagine; but I hope you can a little more today.  This human comes away from your words and world a better man.