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My Ruminations: Goodbye WordPress

leavingWell dear readers, it’s time for me to once again simplify my life.  I will not be posting anything on my blog until further notice.  I’m exhausted from the reading and writing.  I have lost some of my purpose.  The purpose that led me to this place.  I am exhausted and I am disillusioned.

Before I lose my way completely, I have to step back.  I am going to work ardently on my Inexhaustible Life of Chaos, my life story.  I will be posting only sections of this work as I finish each section.  I hope that you will still be around for this.  I have not penned one single word yet, and I don’t know when that will be.

I will probably lose some of what is here.  I guess some of us–if not all to some degree–are used to internet “likes.”  Likes on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Tumblr, Pinterest, and WordPress.  Have we gone outside ourselves for the love we all so desperately need?  Have we become a culture of instant “feel good?”  Have we come to the idea that we are okay based upon how many “likes” we amass?

I know perhaps I have.  Perhaps you have not.  If you haven’t, congratulations on your incredible intestinal fortitude.  But this writer has cared too much about how many readers have read his work.  This writer wants to change the world, save everyone.  I can’t do that.  I am only on Instagram and WordPress.  I feel let down when something I have created doesn’t receive the audience I thought it would.  For me, that is not how I intend to live my life.

I have tried to do too much, I think, with my blog.  My expectations–symptomatic of my Ego–have been unrealistic and disappointing.  I’m not saying I have a big Ego.  I am saying this stems from Ego (and ID as well).  I have learned that I am not that important.  I can thank my Borderline Personality Disorder for trying to be more important than I am.

I am not saying I am not of value.  But I have been humbled by this experience.  I realize that, once again, I have fallen in the trap of looking without for what I can find within.  My validation is not to be found in a world of “likes.”  It is to be found in my personal introspections and meditations.

That being said, I welcome you to peruse my other 900+ posts.  However, I am not under any delusion about that:  most folks read through the reader.  And, since I will not be posting what I have always called “fresh cuts,” my readership will plummet.  Oh well, I no longer care about that–as I shouldn’t.  At first my Ego was disheartened at this, which only further cemented the fact that I need to press pause on this world.

I know that my Ego has gotten in the way.  It is not easy to confess that I have fallen prey to this world of illusion.  I need to work on controlling my ego and find a balance for myself.  I want to write my story because I still see the value of writing for my recovery.  But I have, as I do with everything, taken this blog to the extreme.

Therefore, thank you all for your loving support.  I have met some INCREDIBLE people here.  I have met some of the loveliest souls I have ever met, and I will see you all again.  I can’t tell you how very grateful I am for the kindness, the loving comments, the attention those of you who have truly been committed to me and my work.  YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE!

I do wish you all the joy and happiness that life can bring if you just give it a chance.  Give yourself the compassion you deserve.  Travel the road to yourself.  And, when I finish the first in my series of my Inexhaustible Life of Chaos, it will posted here I will be posting the 2nd winner of my Robust Ruminator Award soon as well.

And, as always, you may reach me at my email address should you ever just need a kind soul to hear you.  keatsj1964@gmail.com

May your Higher Power bless you all with infinite serenity.



Winner will be announced on Saturday, March 4th

I developed this award to recognize those bloggers who are truly exceptional people, as well as writers.  Listen, we’re all out here writing and plowing along in life.  But some of you are just way too exceptional to be included in a 15 nomination “award.”  So I made one just for you!

Some of you are exceptional above and beyond the talent that exists in our community.  Some of you just blow us away with your gut-wrenching bravery and unequaled talent.  And some of you are constantly posting material that is beneficial to all concerned.  I want to recognize you and your works.

To me the Robust Ruminator is someone who takes incredible personal risks in exposing their realities.  Someone who shows brilliance in their writing.  A Robust Ruminator is someone who also shows devotion to the other bloggers by posting thoughtful comments, not just pressing the like button.

This is a bi-weekly award.  Before you vote, please consider carefully the following award criteria

ro·bust ōbŭst)

1. Full of health and strength; vigorous. (blogger shows guts and fortitude)

2. Powerfully built; sturdy. (exhibits an exceptional command of the English language)

3. Active or dynamic. (blogger regularly comments on others’ work) VERY IMPORTANT!

4. Effective or productive. (blogger is prolific and their writing educates and enlightens)

5. Substantial in content. (blogger shows incredible range and depth of courage )

Once the winner is chosen I will:

  1. Send you cash prize of $50.00!  That’s right! 50 bucks!
  2. Request you post the Award prominently.
  3. Feature you and your work on my blog.
  4. Invite you in as a Guest Blogger.
  5. Post to Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter on your behalf.

Read More About The Robust Ruminator Award

Robmoji’s List: What Men Want You To Know

wp-1487810209444.pngWHO IS ROBMOJI?

 Well, here I am with another one of my famously famous lists.  However, I can’t take credit for this idea, I actually got it reading one of my all-time favorite poets blog:

Tosha is awesome, and her post “All About Men–A New List, inspired me to compile my list:  (things that we don’t tell you because we don’t want to get bitched at, and you say you want us to be honest but that’s not really what you mean what you really mean is agree with you do the honeydolist, hand me your paycheck and then shut the fuck up.)  Kidding, kidding.  Some of you take me waaaaaay to seriously.

But I digress.  So without further ado, after intensive research and surveys of thousands of men, I have come up with what I think would be 10 Things Men Want You To Know–fine, I didn’t survey thousands of men, I only surveyed myself.

*1.  Please stop complaining about us leaving the toilet seat up.  toilet seatHere’s how this works:  we put it up without ever complaining, so you can put it down!

*2.  When you say “nothing” after we ask you “What’s wrong?” it makes us want to stop asking you what’s wrong.  Just open up and tell us–immediately, not after 5 hours of pushing, pulling, prodding.  Unless, of course, we’re the problem, then we’ll just leave you alone immediately.

That’s a special clause we use.  Yes, we know you have to “process” and that you need “alone” time.  Just stop saying “nothing.”  Hopefully you are not with a moron, so most of us get that that answer is horseshit.

*3.  We don’t know where “honey-do” list or “man-cave” came from, but you are strictly banned from using them.  They are stupid, idiotic, and relegate our manhood to some caveman era.  And they couldn’t really talk or write that well.  We can.  Whatever happened to “Hey honey, I’ll be in the DEN?”

*4.  We love to keep things hot in the bedroom, and pretty much every other surface but places like a rigging well, an electrified fence, and isle 5 at Walmart–which has future possibilities.  sexBUT, using sex as a weapon is a major problem.  Sex is sex, problems are problems.  When we fight we only want you that much more.  Sex as a weapon is a relationship killer, bet your life on it.

*5.  Keeping things hot and spicy in the relationship is a TWO PERSON JOB.  Sometimes we can’t tell you what we want, but try EVERYTHING, pretty sure that will work 99% of the time.  In other words, it’s not just the man’s job to come up with new places, ideas for sex.  Take some initiative (and NOT just on Valentine’s day) to keep us engaged.  The better half of us will do our part.

*6.  Along the lines of keeping things interesting:  What you like we like.  We love little notes stuck in our lunch, briefcase, pants pockets.  An email, a letter mailed to us–yes, you read that correctly.  The little things make all the difference.  At least some of us men still do get that.  But rarely is that reciprocal.

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*7.  Complain to us about your life, the kids, work, the world.  Complain to your girlfriends about your girlfriends.  I am pretty sure that NONE of us want to listen to girl talk.  You know what we mean.  We are your “everything”, but not your girlfriend.

*8.  Taking healthy personal time with friends or alone does not mean we are not interested in you anymore, it means we need me time.  Be confident enough in your own skin that you can allow us to do this and not make us feel guilty about it later.  Notice I did say “healthy personal time” so don’t bug me out!

*9.  “What Are You Thinking?” Why is it important for you to know our exact thought process right this very second? The whole question itself is ridiculous and irritates the heck out of even the calmest and all-forgiving person.  Never ask this again please, and thank you!

*10.  Over communicating.  Oh, the days of just a regular telephone, sweet silence!  Seriously girls. Is that necessary to call all the time? Bugging us and checking every tiny little detail during your day?!  Men do not like that much attention when it is over the top. yapping on justruminating men's blogTo them, it lingers at the borderline of obsessive, demanding and jealous.

You don’t need to keep us updated about every move and every little detail, just as you don’t need to know what we are doing, where we are and what we are thinking about right now every minute of the day. Give us some space. Give us some time to miss you!

My mother’s tip for a successful relationship:  “NEVER GO TO BED ANGRY”  Happy loving folks.  I found this graphic, and I believe it includes all the components that are important except for wild sex.  What works for you?

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Robmoji’s List: Hot Bloggers

wp-1487765548846.pngWHO IS ROBMOJI?

Ya, ya, I know:  “Robmoji don’t you know you’re objectifying women?”  Give me a break.  Today’s list is merely pointing out that you can be hot AND be smart, so pump the brakes on the judgments–Robmoji don’t play that.

That’s right, I am doing a great service to society by helping eliminate the stereotype of “All looks, no brains.”  So don’t get your panties in a bunch!  Don’t rain on my parade!

These women write some damn good blogs besides.  Don’t be writing me talking shit.  Oh, and if you comment, keep in mind this is MY post, not Rob’s!  I’m so sick of getting confused with him.

Oh I do love the ladies.  And besides, all of these hotties support Rob’s blog, and that means more readers for me!  So, without further ado, here is a list (there are way more, but I had to stop somewhere!), and in no particular order, of 15 of the hottest–and bestest–bloggers I know.  I know many more, but this is only supposed to be a top 10 list!

Marriage proposals accepted on a first come, first serve basis.  Don’t all fight over me at once!

All names are linked to one of their mighty fine posts.  Go read them!
















Robmoji’s List: Latest Followers

Robmoji_manythanksRobmoji’s List is a new feature where I will be highlighting WordPress bloggers in various categories.


Today’s List:  My Last 10 Followers

I guess in order for you like me, I should do a shout out to Rob’s newest followers.  Without folks like you, I would be talking into the wind.  I always try to read as many blogs as I can, but keep in mind it’s all about Robmoji, and not you.

I welcome you all to my community.  Make sure you read more of my posts than Rob’s.  I know that my community will welcome you as well!

Here are my latest 10 followers in no particular order.  In each instance I have linked to their About pages so you can learn more about them.  If there is no link to an About Page, then I link to the main page so you can choose what you want to read.

  1. apatientvoice 

  2. Stevie’s Law

  3. lettersthatmatter

  4. the year (s) of living non-judgementally

  5. hopesofheart

  6. Words and that


  8. future advocate shubham mubi

  9. Prateek’s Helping H@nd

  10. Dawn Peace

And you better be reading my posts!  The hell with Rob, Robmoji is a much better writer!  Good luck and all that stuff.