My Miscellany: Self Condemnation


As I had mentioned in an earlier post, I love Notes To Myself, By Hugh Prather, it was one of the first books I read about self introspection.

Somehow over the years the lessons he shares in his book went by the wayside of the mind taking over the beauty of me.  The book helped me to come into focus with the messages which so keenly pinpoint the flaws within which the mind can bring us discord both in our heads, and in our relationships with those around us.

It is a book you can pick up and read any passage at any time, as his thoughts are written not in a linear way, but sort of happenstance.  Bring this book into your life!

Although it is not the type of New Age subject matter you might be used to reading if you are on the path of being the “Light Fantastic,” it really brings one out of one’s head, and into a kind of perspective that allows for introspective that can bring you back within yourself and rejoin your inner self.

One of my favorite quotes in the book is:

“The criticism that hurts the most is the one that echoes my own self-condemnation.”

How often do we fixate on our mistakes?  How often do we carry guilt, shame, anger, disappointment over something we have said or done?  I am learning just how much guilt I have been carrying over the years and how it has crippled my sense of well-being; how it has kept me living in my head instead of living in the peace that is me, the universe that was my birth-right and one that turned my switch from “yes” to “no.”

I hold the belief that many of us have a very difficult time letting go, moving forward, forgiving ourselves.  What Prather is saying is that we drift so far away from just being, that to live in one’s head is not honoring the peace we all richly deserve.  If we can just let ourselves off the hook and live today in the knowing that we are perfect; we are the greatest creation and we didn’t have to do anything at all, then I truly believe we set ourselves back on this path.

Along the way, the “yes” of our birth-right was clouded by who we thought we were supposed to be based on the experiences without ourselves that turned our existence into “no.”  That is to say, we lost the wonder of ourselves and the love of just being the miracle we are.

Today I will meditate on this and probably will experience painful memories, but in meditation I am learning how to live within my soul rather than my mind.  I can’t remember who exactly said “The mind is a powerful wish-fulfilling machine”, but it is a powerful statement that illustrates this is the danger of self within the mind rather than the self that exists through manifestation of just being.

Along these lines is the concept of “self-fulfilling prophecy.”  Self-fulfilling prophecy is defined as “The self-fulfilling prophecy is, in the beginning, a false definition of the situation evoking a new behaviour which makes the original false conception come ‘true’ in Wikipedia.

The mind shapes the reality.  But that is how we lose our way.  Therefore, focusing the mind through meditation–not always through outside learning, because everything one needs to know is within one’s self–I have found an incredible ability to calm myself and release the mind’s negative self-talk and be at peace TODAY!

It really is amazing, in the short time I have been walking this path of enlightenment, just how powerful connecting with SELF really is.  Take 5 minutes of your day and quiet yourself in a peaceful place, and you too will be surprised at the quietude you will find.

Read “The Road Less Traveled,” a poem by Robert Frost.  I read that poem while pursuing my degree in English Teaching.  I am floored at the realization of what he truly was saying.    Namaste,, Rob

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