Living Life Well: Letting Go
Acceptance Is Letting Go
The old saying “Shit Happens” is appropriate for this living life well gen. Accept what has happened in your life and just get on with things.
Maybe your parents didn’t love you enough. Or someone didn’t finish a relationship with you the right way. Perhaps you were wronged on the job. Most people don’t do these things on purpose. They just didn’t know any different.
If you want to, you can let go of any feelings of resentment, of regret, or anger. You can think of yourself as a fabulous human being because of all the bad things that have happened to you. Try not to use labels such as “good” and “bad.” Yes, I am aware that some of it is indeed bad, but it is how we let it affect us that is the real “bad.”
Letting Go of the Past
I had a seriously dysfunctional childhood and for a long time I was resentful and very angry. I blamed my upbringing for all the messed up things I was doing. It’s so easy to do. I also didn’t realize that I had a lot of unresolved grieve and regret as well.
But once I accepted that what was done was done, and that I could choose to forgive and get on with my life, things improved enormously. And I am glad I made peace with my mother, for she died about 1 year after I let it all go.
All of the cruel things she did to me; all of the days and nights of sadness and despair. By practicing acceptance and letting go, they were replaced with a humble acceptance that my mother had a brutal life and I was simply one of the catastrophes she couldn’t cope with.
Can’t Change What You Can’t Change
Just remember, even if you could get in front of you all the people who had “done you wrong,” and railed at them for 30 minutes there would still be nothing they could do.
You could shout at them, berate them, rant at them, but there would be nothing they could do to make amends or put things right.
It’s water over the bridge. It’s pie in the sky. What are you going to do with your life today?
They too would have to accept that what’s done is done. There is no going back, only forward. Make it a motto for life–keep moving forward. Just let it go. Whatever is an albatross around your neck. Set it free and see how much better your life will become almost instantly. Like the popular saying in A.A. goes “Let Go, Let God.”