Category: My Miscellany

The Stalking Narcissist

I was renewing my subscription to this blog, when I noticed an incredible surge in activity.

Curious, I went to my Admin Panel and was stunned to see a pattern reminiscent of how a stalker might behave.

Then I checked the origin of where the stalker-or stalkers-location was. And then I knew: My blog had become fodder for a lunatic NARCISSIST, BULLY, and EMOTIONAL VAMPIRE.

I could give a care as to how my recovery blog has likely been regurgitated to innocent friends and family, who have been swindled for years by this manipulative, and insecure bully.

Nor do I put any stock whatsoever in the interpretations of an individual, who I am certain is a borderline sociopath, and in need of immediate Psychiatric Treatment.

As well, I could care less how my blog is “received” by individuals who prefer to gossip behind closed doors about my “past”, as my most dedicated readers know.

Not convinced I have this (or these) stalkers dead to rights?

Read on my devoted readers, as I elucidate the nasty traits of an individual who clearly suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

See if this sounds like someone you know. If it does, I wouldn’t hesitate to force them, and the ones they continue to con, to accept that the only person with the problem is SHE (or him, or they).

A narcissistic personality disorder causes problems in many areas of life, such as relationships, work, school or financial affairs.

People with narcissistic personality disorder may be generally unhappy and disappointed when they’re not given the special favors or admiration they believe they deserve. They may find their relationships unfulfilling, and others may not enjoy being around them.

Treatment for narcissistic personality disorder centers around talk therapy (psychotherapy).

Symptoms

Signs and symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder and the severity of symptoms vary. People with the disorder can:

  • Have an exaggerated sense of self-importance
  • Have a sense of entitlement and require constant, excessive admiration
  • Expect to be recognized as superior even without achievements that warrant it
  • Exaggerate achievements and talents
  • Be preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate
  • Believe they are superior and can only associate with equally special people
  • Monopolize conversations and belittle or look down on people they perceive as inferior
  • Expect special favors and unquestioning compliance with their expectations
  • Take advantage of others to get what they want
  • Have an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others
  • Be envious of others and believe others envy them
  • Behave in an arrogant or haughty manner, coming across as conceited, boastful and pretentious
  • Insist on having the best of everything — for instance, the best car or office

At the same time, people with narcissistic personality disorder have trouble handling anything they perceive as criticism, and they can:

  • Become impatient or angry when they don’t receive special treatment
  • Have significant interpersonal problems and easily feel slighted
  • React with rage or contempt and try to belittle the other person to make themselves appear superior
  • Have difficulty regulating emotions and behavior
  • Experience major problems dealing with stress and adapting to change
  • Feel depressed and moody because they fall short of perfection
  • Have secret feelings of insecurity, shame, vulnerability and humiliation

When to see a doctor

People with narcissistic personality disorder may not want to think that anything could be wrong, so they may be unlikely to seek treatment.

If they do seek treatment, it’s more likely to be for symptoms of depression, drug or alcohol use, or another mental health problem. But perceived insults to self-esteem may make it difficult to accept and follow through with treatment.

If you recognize aspects of your personality that are common to narcissistic personality disorder or you’re feeling overwhelmed by sadness, consider reaching out to a trusted doctor or mental health provider.

Getting the right treatment can help make your life more rewarding and enjoyable.

Get treatment!

You’ve got serious issues.

Your opinions mean nothing.

You are shallow.

You are a nasty person.

You are a stalker.

You are a liar.

You are spiritually bankrupt.

You are seriously ill.

You are a drama queen.

You need help.

You are vain.

You are hurtful.

You are a fake.

Until you get help:

You will not matter to me.

You will not matter period.

You will remain irrelevant.

You will remain despicable.

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Butterflies Drift

Butterflies drift
before a man
before
the
dawning night.

Clouds retreating
beyond the veil
beyond
a
setting sun.

Ruminate long
within this space
within
this
sober sight.

NAMASTE

Our Blog Community Kicks Ass!

friends on justruminating men's blogHi guys, I just wanted to share with you some of our blog milestones.  Yes, OUR, because without you, there wouldn’t be a justruminating.  These milestones would never have been achieved without your love and support.  I feel like bragging today.  Hell, I guess some level of validation, love, attention, appreciation never killed anyone; so give yourselves a pat on the back.

You have shown me kindness, attention, and over and over again showed that you would be with me no matter what I posted.  You’ve been incredibly instrumental in my recovery as well.  THANK YOU!  I will be back sometime early April with lots more good stuff!

As a way of saying thanks, I thought I would introduce you to the first 25 bloggers ever to follow me.  I found a cool new way to link to bloggers, so you will see others coming very soon!  The top link brings you to the blogger’s gravatar page, the bottom link to their website.

Show ’em some love and go say hi!

Look at what WE have achieved just since October 18, 2016!  This is what people can do when they come together in love and unity!  Good stuff people!

Justruminating Milestones:

1,308 Followers

885 Posts

59 Categories

7,826 Comments

39, 010 “Likes”

Best Day February 20th:

1,023 Views

344 Visitors

360 Likes

239 Comments

To My first 25 Followers, YOU ROCK!!

 

Reena Davis
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Bryan Grogan
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Psychic Medium Ian Scott
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Sheryl
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Annie
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Casey E Bean
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Thoughts in Life
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Chris Karl
http://FromAshesIRiseRecovery.com
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http://iamashishb.wordpress.com
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http://nofacewoman.wordpress.com
DirtySciFiBuddha
http://dirtyscifibuddha.com
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http://blissinajar.wordpress.com
Success Inspirers’ World
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Minal Dalal Co-Creator
http://minaldalalblog.wordpress.com
yassy
http://yassy66.wordpress.com
WovenEclipse
http://rebeccasherratt.wordpress.com

My Ruminations: Goodbye WordPress

leavingWell dear readers, it’s time for me to once again simplify my life.  I will not be posting anything on my blog until further notice.  I’m exhausted from the reading and writing.  I have lost some of my purpose.  The purpose that led me to this place.  I am exhausted and I am disillusioned.

Before I lose my way completely, I have to step back.  I am going to work ardently on my Inexhaustible Life of Chaos, my life story.  I will be posting only sections of this work as I finish each section.  I hope that you will still be around for this.  I have not penned one single word yet, and I don’t know when that will be.

I will probably lose some of what is here.  I guess some of us–if not all to some degree–are used to internet “likes.”  Likes on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Tumblr, Pinterest, and WordPress.  Have we gone outside ourselves for the love we all so desperately need?  Have we become a culture of instant “feel good?”  Have we come to the idea that we are okay based upon how many “likes” we amass?

I know perhaps I have.  Perhaps you have not.  If you haven’t, congratulations on your incredible intestinal fortitude.  But this writer has cared too much about how many readers have read his work.  This writer wants to change the world, save everyone.  I can’t do that.  I am only on Instagram and WordPress.  I feel let down when something I have created doesn’t receive the audience I thought it would.  For me, that is not how I intend to live my life.

I have tried to do too much, I think, with my blog.  My expectations–symptomatic of my Ego–have been unrealistic and disappointing.  I’m not saying I have a big Ego.  I am saying this stems from Ego (and ID as well).  I have learned that I am not that important.  I can thank my Borderline Personality Disorder for trying to be more important than I am.

I am not saying I am not of value.  But I have been humbled by this experience.  I realize that, once again, I have fallen in the trap of looking without for what I can find within.  My validation is not to be found in a world of “likes.”  It is to be found in my personal introspections and meditations.

That being said, I welcome you to peruse my other 900+ posts.  However, I am not under any delusion about that:  most folks read through the reader.  And, since I will not be posting what I have always called “fresh cuts,” my readership will plummet.  Oh well, I no longer care about that–as I shouldn’t.  At first my Ego was disheartened at this, which only further cemented the fact that I need to press pause on this world.

I know that my Ego has gotten in the way.  It is not easy to confess that I have fallen prey to this world of illusion.  I need to work on controlling my ego and find a balance for myself.  I want to write my story because I still see the value of writing for my recovery.  But I have, as I do with everything, taken this blog to the extreme.

Therefore, thank you all for your loving support.  I have met some INCREDIBLE people here.  I have met some of the loveliest souls I have ever met, and I will see you all again.  I can’t tell you how very grateful I am for the kindness, the loving comments, the attention those of you who have truly been committed to me and my work.  YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE!

I do wish you all the joy and happiness that life can bring if you just give it a chance.  Give yourself the compassion you deserve.  Travel the road to yourself.  And, when I finish the first in my series of my Inexhaustible Life of Chaos, it will posted here I will be posting the 2nd winner of my Robust Ruminator Award soon as well.

And, as always, you may reach me at my email address should you ever just need a kind soul to hear you.  keatsj1964@gmail.com

May your Higher Power bless you all with infinite serenity.

My Miscellany: Blog Navigation

wp-1485298089762.jpgSo, those of you who have been following me for awhile know how I can’t help myself.  I can’t help myself when I think of a new category for my blog, I just have to create it!

Well, I realize for new visitors, and perhaps for those of you who have been with me for a short time, my blog can be a bit overwhelming.

Fear not!  I have come to your rescue.  I have created a SITE NAVIGATION tab at the top of my blog!  See, I’m always thinking of you guys.

The worse thing about blogging is the damn Reader though.  It doesn’t really allow for folks visiting the many lovely blogs out there and enabling a reader to discover other content.

navigation1 on justruminating men's blog

I have been perusing blogs more on the computer–when I can on the damn thing–and I must say I am enjoying your sites so much more!  With that in mind, I created my SITE NAVIGATION tab; I have described each of my over 20 different categories I post about at any given time!

Now you can see the Category Heading and a brief description of the content under that heading.  I hope that this will enable you to find content that is meaningful to you, rather than blindly roaming around.

I have over 700 posts, I hope by identifying the material by Category Names, it will help you to have a more pleasant experience, and help you find relevant content quickly.  Also, there are links to all the categories on this new SITE NAVIGATION tab.  These links open the content in a different window, so you can save time from clicking around.

Please, let me know if you find it a lot easier, or if you have any suggestions for future features!  Happy Blogging!