Category: My Miscellany

Our Blog Community Kicks Ass!

friends on justruminating men's blogHi guys, I just wanted to share with you some of our blog milestones.  Yes, OUR, because without you, there wouldn’t be a justruminating.  These milestones would never have been achieved without your love and support.  I feel like bragging today.  Hell, I guess some level of validation, love, attention, appreciation never killed anyone; so give yourselves a pat on the back.

You have shown me kindness, attention, and over and over again showed that you would be with me no matter what I posted.  You’ve been incredibly instrumental in my recovery as well.  THANK YOU!  I will be back sometime early April with lots more good stuff!

As a way of saying thanks, I thought I would introduce you to the first 25 bloggers ever to follow me.  I found a cool new way to link to bloggers, so you will see others coming very soon!  The top link brings you to the blogger’s gravatar page, the bottom link to their website.

Show ’em some love and go say hi!

Look at what WE have achieved just since October 18, 2016!  This is what people can do when they come together in love and unity!  Good stuff people!

Justruminating Milestones:

1,308 Followers

885 Posts

59 Categories

7,826 Comments

39, 010 “Likes”

Best Day February 20th:

1,023 Views

344 Visitors

360 Likes

239 Comments

To My first 25 Followers, YOU ROCK!!

 

Reena Davis
http://yogawithmaheshwari.wordpress.com
Bryan Grogan
http://groganbryan.wordpress.com
Man of many thoughts
http://keithgarrettpoetry.wordpress.com
freckles for breakfast
http://frecklesforbreakfast.wordpress.com
Psychic Medium Ian Scott
https://thriveonnews.com
wildsoundreview
http://wildsoundwritingfestivalreview.wordpress.com
anansi2050
http://anansi2050.wordpress.com
Sheryl
http://biaatlas.wordpress.com
Annie
http://anoell.wordpress.com
Casey E Bean
https://caseyelizabethbean.wordpress.com/
Deniz Yalım
https://positivitynowblog.wordpress.com
Victoria B.
http://800recoveryhubblog.wordpress.com
arunabhdkonwar
http://nailapost.wordpress.com
storytellingcook
http://eating2016.wordpress.com
Thoughts in Life
http://thoughtsinlifeblog.wordpress.com
Chris Karl
http://FromAshesIRiseRecovery.com
abwrotethat
http://iamashishb.wordpress.com
no face woman
http://nofacewoman.wordpress.com
DirtySciFiBuddha
http://dirtyscifibuddha.com
hocuspocus13
http://hocuspocus13.wordpress.com
elenaflutterfly
http://blissinajar.wordpress.com
Success Inspirers’ World
http://successinspirer.wordpress.com
Minal Dalal Co-Creator
http://minaldalalblog.wordpress.com
yassy
http://yassy66.wordpress.com
WovenEclipse
http://rebeccasherratt.wordpress.com

My Ruminations: Goodbye Wordpress

leavingWell dear readers, it’s time for me to once again simplify my life.  I will not be posting anything on my blog until further notice.  I’m exhausted from the reading and writing.  I have lost some of my purpose.  The purpose that led me to this place.  I am exhausted and I am disillusioned.

Before I lose my way completely, I have to step back.  I am going to work ardently on my Inexhaustible Life of Chaos, my life story.  I will be posting only sections of this work as I finish each section.  I hope that you will still be around for this.  I have not penned one single word yet, and I don’t know when that will be.

I will probably lose some of what is here.  I guess some of us–if not all to some degree–are used to internet “likes.”  Likes on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Tumblr, Pinterest, and WordPress.  Have we gone outside ourselves for the love we all so desperately need?  Have we become a culture of instant “feel good?”  Have we come to the idea that we are okay based upon how many “likes” we amass?

I know perhaps I have.  Perhaps you have not.  If you haven’t, congratulations on your incredible intestinal fortitude.  But this writer has cared too much about how many readers have read his work.  This writer wants to change the world, save everyone.  I can’t do that.  I am only on Instagram and WordPress.  I feel let down when something I have created doesn’t receive the audience I thought it would.  For me, that is not how I intend to live my life.

I have tried to do too much, I think, with my blog.  My expectations–symptomatic of my Ego–have been unrealistic and disappointing.  I’m not saying I have a big Ego.  I am saying this stems from Ego (and ID as well).  I have learned that I am not that important.  I can thank my Borderline Personality Disorder for trying to be more important than I am.

I am not saying I am not of value.  But I have been humbled by this experience.  I realize that, once again, I have fallen in the trap of looking without for what I can find within.  My validation is not to be found in a world of “likes.”  It is to be found in my personal introspections and meditations.

That being said, I welcome you to peruse my other 900+ posts.  However, I am not under any delusion about that:  most folks read through the reader.  And, since I will not be posting what I have always called “fresh cuts,” my readership will plummet.  Oh well, I no longer care about that–as I shouldn’t.  At first my Ego was disheartened at this, which only further cemented the fact that I need to press pause on this world.

I know that my Ego has gotten in the way.  It is not easy to confess that I have fallen prey to this world of illusion.  I need to work on controlling my ego and find a balance for myself.  I want to write my story because I still see the value of writing for my recovery.  But I have, as I do with everything, taken this blog to the extreme.

Therefore, thank you all for your loving support.  I have met some INCREDIBLE people here.  I have met some of the loveliest souls I have ever met, and I will see you all again.  I can’t tell you how very grateful I am for the kindness, the loving comments, the attention those of you who have truly been committed to me and my work.  YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE!

I do wish you all the joy and happiness that life can bring if you just give it a chance.  Give yourself the compassion you deserve.  Travel the road to yourself.  And, when I finish the first in my series of my Inexhaustible Life of Chaos, it will posted here I will be posting the 2nd winner of my Robust Ruminator Award soon as well.

And, as always, you may reach me at my email address should you ever just need a kind soul to hear you.  keatsj1964@gmail.com

May your Higher Power bless you all with infinite serenity.

My Miscellany: Blog Navigation

wp-1485298089762.jpgSo, those of you who have been following me for awhile know how I can’t help myself.  I can’t help myself when I think of a new category for my blog, I just have to create it!

Well, I realize for new visitors, and perhaps for those of you who have been with me for a short time, my blog can be a bit overwhelming.

Fear not!  I have come to your rescue.  I have created a SITE NAVIGATION tab at the top of my blog!  See, I’m always thinking of you guys.

The worse thing about blogging is the damn Reader though.  It doesn’t really allow for folks visiting the many lovely blogs out there and enabling a reader to discover other content.

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I have been perusing blogs more on the computer–when I can on the damn thing–and I must say I am enjoying your sites so much more!  With that in mind, I created my SITE NAVIGATION tab; I have described each of my over 20 different categories I post about at any given time!

Now you can see the Category Heading and a brief description of the content under that heading.  I hope that this will enable you to find content that is meaningful to you, rather than blindly roaming around.

I have over 700 posts, I hope by identifying the material by Category Names, it will help you to have a more pleasant experience, and help you find relevant content quickly.  Also, there are links to all the categories on this new SITE NAVIGATION tab.  These links open the content in a different window, so you can save time from clicking around.

Please, let me know if you find it a lot easier, or if you have any suggestions for future features!  Happy Blogging!

My Miscellany: I’m Not That Special

wp-1485298089762.jpgHappy Wednesday humans!  As you may or may not know I boycotted all forms of Social Media yesterday.  I also gave up my phone for the day.

Why did I do such a thing?  Because I can’t stand Valentine’s Day this year.  Maybe next year I won’t feel the same way.

Anyway…what did I learn from this little experiment?  I am glad you asked!

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I Rely Way Too Much On Social Media

today1Yup.  I woke up fiending for my phone.  I forgot to remember that, not only could I not check my comments and read other blogs, I couldn’t meditate or listen to music.  I thought about my phone and blogging most of the day.  Ya, I think I am going to have to set some boundaries for myself.

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Blogging Is An Essential Component Of My Recovery

today2Having talked about boundaries, I realized how important it is for me to connect with other bloggers and to write my recovery posts.  I missed the interactions.  I missed posting material that I think might be helpful to others, or at least entertaining.  I also missed the comments you guys post to me.

And this most definitely helps my own recovery tremendously.  I think, if I had an extended absence from blogging, my wellness would definitely suffer.  So thank you all for being a HUGE part of my recovery!

My Actual Blog Doesn’t Matter

today3Yes, that’s what I said.  My readership dropped like a mafia kill into the ocean.  I went from over 600 reads to 60!  Oh my, that’s not good.  My blog doesn’t matter because 95% of you read blogs through the reader.  So all that fancy stuff I was going to add to my blog by switching over to wordpress.com?  I’m going to save my money.

Hate to say it folks, other than your diehard fans, the majority of bloggers don’t bother visiting your lovely blog; they read your posts in the Reader.  That is one thing I hate about wordpress:  they should post titles to blog posts and force the reader to go to our blogs.  I mean, wtf is the purpose of choosing lovely themes–even paying for better themes–if the majority of people only read posts through the boring Reader?

I’m Not That Special

today4That’s right.  I won’t be burning up any blogger records any time soon.  And I’m ok with that.  If I were that special bloggers would have been like “OMG, Rob at justruminating.blog didn’t post any fresh content, let me get my ass over to his blog and read some of his previous 700+ posts.”

Nope, didn’t happen yesterday, never going to happen.  Fact is, if you don’t post fresh content, and read other blogs DAILY, your going to sit in cyberspace by yourself until you do.  I must say though, a few bloggers did actually go into my archives, and I am most grateful.

Well, there you have it.  My lessons learned by boycotting all social media for 24 hours.  And by the way, I am definitely not that important, I had 0 missed calls and 0 messages.  Back in the day that would have me bent out of shape.  Today?  MEH.

Happy Tuesday

I’m boycotting all forms of social media today.  I typed this Monday, so I’m not cheating.  I gave my phone to the office, will not post or read anything, will not be near a newspaper, etc.  Why?  Because I can and because I want nothing to do with this ridiculous holiday.  And I never did.

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