Category Archives: Living Life Well

Living Life Well: Your Gut

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Gems for living a life of wellness. Lessons I have learned, or am learning, during this crazy journey through life.

We have deep within us a wellspring of wisdom.  Some would call it intuition.  Learning to listen to your intuition is a slowly learned process.  I can’t tell you how many times I  didn’t listen to that tiny inner voice or paid attention to that tiny feeling that was trying to tell me that I was about to do something stupid.

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Deep down you know when you’ve made a bad decision.  You know when you’ve got to apologize, make amends, put things right.  Deep down you know when you are about to do something that goes against your grain.  But you do it anyway!  Often, with unpleasant results.  Trust me, I have been there, done that, bought the shot glass.

If you can tap into that inner voice or feeling the feeling, you’ll find it can help.  It will become more than a mindless parrot perched on your shoulder, chanting “You messed up again” after the event.

Try running stuff past your inner you, before doing things and see what reaction you get.  As with anything, the more you do this, the easier it is to accomplish.

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I want to clarify here.  When I say listen, I don’t mean listen to what goes on in your head.  Now that really is where the insanity lies.  No, I mean a stiller, quieter voice.  For some it’s more a feeling than a voice–what we sometimes call gut instinct.

“Follow your gut” is advice you may have heard before.  I was taught a method whereby before I am about to make a decision, I go in front of the mirror and ask myself if it’s a good idea.

Trust me, when you are standing in front of the mirror and asking yourself out loud your own opinion or advice on something, you will find you will never steer yourself wrong!

Living Life Well: Living For Today

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Gems for living a life of wellness. Lessons I have learned, or am learning, during this crazy journey through life.

Everyday we wake up is a fresh start, and we can make of it what we want, write on that blank canvas.  So, whatever the past was, let it go.  Don’t live in the past!

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There is nothing you can do to change anything that has gone on before and so you must turn your attention to the here and now.  I know that it is hard to resist the allure of dwelling on what has gone before. 

But if you want to be happy and successful at life, you have to turn your attention to what is happening for you right now.  You might be tempted to dwell on the past because it was awful or because it was wonderful.  Either way, you have to leave it behind because the only way to live is in the present.

If you’re revisiting the past because of regrets, then you need to be clear that you can’t go back and undo what you’ve done.  If you hang on to guilt, you’re only damaging yourself.  We’ve all made bad decisions that have adversely affected people around us that we professed to love but whom we treated disgracefully.  There isn’t a damn thing you can do to wipe the slate clean.

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If you can, try to see the past as a room separate from the one you live in now.  You can go in there but you don’t live there anymore.  You can go visit, but it isn’t home anymore.  Home is here and now.  Don’t miss what is happening now because you were too busy looking back, or later you’ll be busy looking back at this time and wondering why you wasted it.

Carpe Diem!

Living Life Well: Spiritual Discipline

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Gems for living a life of wellness. Lessons I have learned, or am learning, during this crazy journey through life.

Spirituality is an active relationship with a power greater than yourself that gives your life meaning and purpose. When you work a spiritual program, you consciously and actively attempt to become a part of something bigger, greater, and powerful than yourself.

Belief in a Higher Power takes you out of the center of your universe and offers peace of mind and serenity by an awareness that there is a power that is not restricted by your weaknesses and limitations. Through spiritual development you can create new confidence in your own abilities and develop a new sense of hope. It is through a spiritual program that you can reach with hope and a positive attitude toward the future.

In working on your spirituality you do have to be open to the possibility of a Higher Power and be willing to structure your life in such a way as to spend time alone each day to interact with your Higher Power. It is important to examine your values and look within yourself to determine whether your life is in harmony with those values.

Spiritual discipline is a consciously chosen course of action. Discipline is uncomfortable for many of us recovering addicts. We have lived lives of immediate gratification, and disciple is the reverse of that. The purpose of spiritual discipline is freedom from the slavery of self-indulgence. Spiritual discipline includes prayer and meditation, spiritual fellowship, and regular inventory of your spiritual growth.

Living Life Well: Time For Yourself

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Gems for living a life of wellness. Lessons I have learned, or am learning, during this crazy journey through life.

Most people think they get this next concept, leave some space for yourself everyday, but most people might be wrong.  You may think you have a little quality time each day for yourself, but I bet you don’t.  

You see, even in our time alone we spend so much of it worrying about others, caring for our family, friends, and loved ones, that there is very little left over entirely for ourselves.  what I am proposing isn’t revolutionary or difficult or extreme.

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In fact, it’s pretty easy.  Just leave a little space for yourself each day.  Perhaps only 10 minutes (ideally half an hour) put aside and devoted entirely to yourself?  Selfish?  You bet.  Of course it is, and justifiably so–you are the captain, the engine, the driving force, the motivator, the rock.  You need that time to regenerate, renew, invigorate yourself.  If you don’t, you aren’t taking on fresh fuel, your engine will run down and so will you.

So what are you going to do with that time? Answer:  absolutely nothing.  And I do mean nothing.  This isn’t time for lying in the bathtub, meditating, reading the paper, or sleeping.  This is a little space for you, a breather, a time to sit still and do absolutely nothing.  I find just sitting in a comfy chair just breathing is a fantastic boost a couple of times a day if I can manage it.

I find time spent doing nothing really important and as soon as I complicate it, it loses something.  If I add a cup of coffee to my solitude, then it’s a coffee break and not a space just for me.  If I listen to music, then it’s a music break.  If I have a companion with me and we chat, then it’s a social occasion.  I have moved away entirely from the concept of a little space for me.  Keep it simple.  Keep it bare.  Keep it pure!

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Living Life Well: Having Humor

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Gems for living a life of wellness. Lessons I have learned, or am learning, during this crazy journey through life.

As we struggle through this life–and it can be a struggle–we need to keep a sense of proportion about it.  What we do and what we take seriously can often be so far removed from what it is actually all about that it is laughable.

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So today, we want to try to the best we can and have a sense of humor.  We get bogged down in trivia, lost in irrelevant detail to such an extent that our life can whizz past and we don’t even notice.  By letting go of things that really aren’t important, we can put ourselves back on the right track.

And the best way to do that is through humor–laughing at ourselves, laughing at our situation, but never laughing at others–although it’s hard some days lol–they’re just as lost as us.

Life is for living, enjoying the sunshine, big things–not getting in a terrible mood because you dropped some eggs on the supermarket floor, someone didn’t hold the door open as you were approaching.

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Laughing at yourself and situations you find yourself in has a double positive effect.  First, it diffuses tension and helps regain a sense of proportion; and second, it has real physical as well as mental benefits.  Laughter causes the release of endorphins, which make you feel better and give you a better perspective on life.

If you observe any aspect of human behavior, you can see the ridiculousness in all of it.  Learn to find the funny side of everything.  It’s the best technique for instant stress relief and dissolves anxiety and doubt.  Try it!

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