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Living Life Well: How’s Your Bed?

Gems for living a life of wellness. Lessons I have learned, or am learning, during this crazy journey through life.

Every action you take, every decision you make, everything you do causes an immediate effect on those around you–and on you.  And this is the important bit.  There is such a thing as instant karma.  It is your bed, and you are going to have to lie in it.  Therefore:  Choose How You Make Your Bed!

Your actions will dictate whether in general your life is going to run happily or badly, smoothly or as if the wheels have fallen off.  If you are selfish and manipulative, it will rebound on you.  bed1If you are generally loving and thoughtful, you will get your just rewards–and not in heaven (or the next life or whatever you believe) but right here, right now.

Trust me.  Whatever you do and how you do it will come back to you in spades.  This isn’t a threat for living.  It’s an observation.  It’s happened to me time and time again.  Those who do good, get good.  Those who do bad, get bad.

bed2I know we can all point to people who seem to have it made and are still pretty vile.  But, trust me, they don’t sleep well at night, if at all.  They have no one to really love them.

Inside they are sad and lonely and frightened.  Those who go around sharing a bit of love and kindness get rewarded with the same coming back.

So be careful how you make your bed.  What goes around, comes around.  There is instant karma.  What you sow you reap.  Better to stand up and be counted right from the start.  Do the right thing, every time.  You know what it is.  Then when you get in the bed you’ve made, not only will you be able to sleep at night, but you’ll sleep the sleep of the just.

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Living Life Well: Laugh A Little!

Gems for living a life of wellness. Lessons I have learned, or am learning, during this crazy journey through life.

As we struggle through this life–and it can be a struggle–we need to keep a sense of proportion about it.  What we do and what we take seriously can often be so far removed from what it is actually all about that it is laughable.

So today, we want to try to the best we can and have a sense of humor.  We get bogged down in trivia, lost in irrelevant detail to such an extent that our life can whizz past and we don’t even notice.  laughter1By letting go of things that really aren’t important, we can put ourselves back on the right track.

And the best way to do that is through humor–laughing at ourselves, laughing at our situation, but never laughing at others–although it’s hard some days lol–they’re just as lost as us.

Life is for living, enjoying the sunshine, big things–not getting in a terrible mood because you dropped some eggs on the supermarket floor, someone didn’t hold the door open as you were approaching.

GIFSec.comLaughing at yourself and situations you find yourself in has a double positive effect.  First, it diffuses tension and helps regain a sense of proportion; and second, it has real physical as well as mental benefits.  Laughter causes the release of endorphins, which make you feel better and give you a better perspective on life.

If you observe any aspect of human behavior, you can see the ridiculousness in all of it.  Learn to find the funny side of everything.  It’s the best technique for instant stress relief and dissolves anxiety and doubt.  Try it!

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Living Life Well: Time For You

Gems for living a life of wellness. Lessons I have learned, or am learning, during this crazy journey through life.

Most people think they get this next concept, leave some space for yourself everyday, but most people might be wrong.  YOu may think you have a little quality time each day for yourself, but I bet you don’t.  

You see, even in our time alone we spend so much of it worrying about others, caring for our family, friends, and loved ones, that there is very little left over entirely for ourselves.  what I am proposing isn’t revolutionary or difficult or extreme.

In fact, it’s pretty easy.  Just leave a little space for yourself each day.  Perhaps only 10 minutes (ideally half an hour) put aside and devoted entirely to yourself?  Selfish?  You bet. metime2 Of course it is, and justifiably so–you are the captain, the engine, the driving force, the motivator, the rock.  You need that time to regenerate, renew, invigorate yourself.  If you don’t, you aren’t taking on fresh fuel, your engine will run down and so will you.

So what are you going to do with that time? Answer:  absolutely nothing.  And I do mean nothing.  This isn’t time for lying in the bathtub, meditating, reading the paper, or sleeping.  This is a little space for you, a breather, a time to sit still and do absolutely nothing.  I find just sitting in a comfy chair just breathing is a fantastic boost a couple of times a day if I can manage it.

I find time spent doing nothing really important and as soon as I complicate it, it loses something.  If I add a cup of coffee to my solitude, then it’s a coffee break and not a space just for me.  If I listen to music, then it’s a music break.  If I have a companion with me and we chat, then it’s a social occasion.  I have moved away entirely from the concept of a little space for me.  Keep it simple.  Keep it bare.  Keep it pure!

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